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Moms Q&A: Prom Season

This week our Mom's council members talk about the upcoming prom season

Prom is about a month away, and now's the time for students and parents to be making plans for that special dress, tuxedo or limousine rental for the big night.

One of the most special events for high school students can also be an expensive, emotional time for parents and students alike.

So this week, our Kent Patch Moms Council members offer their thoughts on making the night a special — and safe — one for everyone.

Michelle Sahr April 20, 2011 at 09:02 PM
Ok, my oldest is 14, so I admit to not giving this much thought at this point in the game. I love your ground rules Debra-Lynn (except the sleepover.. I think I would say no to that one). I intend on continuing to instill in my children that they will have to earn my trust. They will also earn privileges by proving both trustworthy and responsible. If a child is not trustworthy, then they will have fewer privileges (perhaps nixing the after prom events for example). I give a priority to clearly communicating expectations and following through on any rules established. If we as parents are consistent about following through on consequences, then our children will be clear in their own decisions. They may not always make the correct decision, but they will understand clearly that there is a consequence. This in itself, I believe, will help directly them to more responsible decisions. After all, by the time they reach Prom night, they better be making mostly responsible decisions. I guess our time for instilling that is about up at that point.
Michelle Sahr April 20, 2011 at 09:04 PM
Oops .. correction "will help direct them to more responsible decisions."
Debra-Lynn Hook April 21, 2011 at 12:29 AM
This is what I mean about mutual trust and respect, Michelle. I never thought I'd agree to the co=ed sleepover -- until I got there. This was after 20 years of parenting. These were trustworthy kids. They made their case. I spoke with them at length. I spoke with the parents in charge. I researched this online, talked to other parents and psychologists and ultimately made my call. I like what you're saying about decisions and consequences. In the end, that's the lesson.
Michelle Sahr April 21, 2011 at 03:31 PM
I hear you Debra-Lynn. My kids are still young, though my oldest is entering high school. I'm not ready for that yet. Maybe later on I will make the same choice. Maybe not. Who knows.
demo rat April 21, 2011 at 07:22 PM
Is it just my opinion, or are today's parents much more protective or possibly less trustworthy of their kids than the previous generation? When I went to prom in 1984, all that my parents said to me was to "enjoy the evening and have fun". They trusted me. I just read a book called "Free Range Kids" by Lenore Skenazy and it addresses this exact issue, with much humor. I'd recommend it to all Kent moms (and dads).

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