Want a Baby? How Much Do You Like Your Father-in-Law?
Here's a headline guaranteed to catch the eye:
DUTCH MAN SEEKS CHILD WITH FATHER’S SPERM
Except…the man may get the sperm, and the headlines, but it’s his wife who has the uterus. I'm trying to imagine the stress and deep-thinking going on in her head. I have to imagine because she's not interviewed in the story. Silly me. It's obviously all about the boys.
But, of course, it isn't.
How much of this mom-to-be's acceptance of this plan is based on pleasing her husband vs. her own desire for a child? And, does she want to experience pregnancy so badly that she’s making a decision she might later regret? Certainly that would be the worst-case scenario, leading her to abuse the child with subtle or obvious attacks.
And, yes, Oprah introduced the world to a 61-year-old American woman who delivered her own grandchild. But, that lady was implanted with an egg from her daughter’s womb that had been fertilized by her son-in-law.
In this new story, the woman in The Netherlands — the one with the uterus — has apparently decided to carry a child whose “grandfather” is its biological father. Her husband will be her child’s biological half-brother.
It’s not totally icky, but danged close.
Lisa Regula Meyer
8:12 am on Saturday, March 31, 2012
Eh, it's just one more way to create a family, and with the restrictions in Holland being what they are, this seems to be a reasonable solution. They're going to have to be open with the child (or never let it near the internet), and openness by the family is a good indicator for the future support and ability to cope for the child; it's the kids whose parents hide their heritage that fare far worse.
Teresa K.
8:56 am on Saturday, March 31, 2012
terrible writing..... I wont click this writer again.
re: "modern communication strategist".... how? the choppy writing and veering off blows me away.
Jack Kelly
3:35 pm on Saturday, March 31, 2012
And this "criticism" from someone who doesn't know what capitalization is and uses ellipsis improperly (as a replacement for punctuation)? Not to mention does not know how to read and/or follow policies/rules.
You're about as credible as Casey Anthony critiquing one's parenting skills.
Le'ah Keturah-Sarah Krzywkowski
4:28 pm on Sunday, April 1, 2012
Good point Jack. I was thinking the same thing.
Le'ah Keturah-Sarah Krzywkowski
4:24 pm on Sunday, April 1, 2012
Relating back to the blog post.... That is a sticky situation. I don't know exactly how I feel about it except to say that if the mother to be isn't happy with her choice, that could interfere with her ability to attach properly to the infant, and could also take it's toll on the health of the pregnancy.
Tiffany Jones
12:30 pm on Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Icky to want a child that is genetically related to both spouses? Icky that the extended family is supportive enough to go this far to help a childless couple? Or icky that you would assume that the mother is somehow either being forced, or is making a bad decision? Icky that people would make such assumptions just because it is a choice they themselves wouldn't make, or perhaps have been fortunate enough to never have to contemplate!
Tiffany Jones
6:18 pm on Tuesday, April 3, 2012
I can't help but wonder what America would look like if people stopped judging what others do in the bedroom (or elsewhere) to create a family. Everyone has a right to pursue their own happiness. Whether my happiness means spending thousands to adopt, spending thousands on infertility treatments, or spending thousands on birthing a child shouldn't concern anyone else. Also not all couples CAN legally adopt